How did you do on your timer mission? Did you form your power into a timer? Did you stop when the timer went off? Why or why not?
Here’s where the mistake comes in. I’ve heard tons of people say (including myself, until I discovered the power of stopping), “I just HAVE to finish this!”
Really? You HAVE to? Is someone sitting over your head with a club ready to beat you if you stop? Where on earth did we learn that we HAD to finish something once we started it, NO MATTER WHAT (no, I’m not yelling)? I don’t know, but it’s ingrained in our heads. It’s an all or nothing approach. And we get into trouble that way.
Let’s take a storage room, for example. You can’t even open the door hardly because it’s so packed with stuff. Or, let’s say there’s a pathway from one room to another because the hallway is piled high with stuff. Or maybe it’s not even that bad: you just have a pile of papers to file sitting on your desk, staring at you.
So you say to yourself, “OK, I’ll try this timer thing. You set your timer & start working. Then “bing” (that’s the sound my timer makes, what about yours?) the timer goes off. You look at your room, hallway or pile & think, “No one’s looking! I’ll just finish this,” or “I’ll just work a little longer.” An hour or days later, you’re totally burned out, you’re not finished, you’re cranky because you haven’t moved from your spot in too long & you’re frustrated because you just want to give up & quit. Your kids are crying for your attention (or your husband or friends) & you snap at them because of all of the above.
You look at the clock and feel like your whole day is wasted. Or that you accomplished nothing.
Are you with me? Are you relating to any of this?
TIMERS, MY FRIENDS, ARE THE KEY!! Timers give us “permission” to stop. Timers give us the power to walk away. I mean, is your pile of stuff going anywhere? It’s not going to grow legs and follow you around the house. It’ll still be there 30 minutes from now after you’ve had a chance to do something else. Timers give us a break and allow our minds to rest, regroup and re-focus.
I know you’re fighting this. You’re thinking that there’s no way that 10, 15, or 20 minutes is going to make one bit of difference, especially if it’s a totally cluttered, filled to the brim room that you’re looking at.
That’s because you’ve never tried it.
It’ll take time. But if you trust me and just try this for a few days or a week, you will feel a freedom you’ve never felt before. Remember, your stuff isn’t going anywhere. It’s been sitting there for awhile already, a few more minutes or a couple of days isn’t going to hurt it.
….form of…A TIMER!